Tuesday, May 19, 2020

Growth

There’s a big difference in saying you are going to do something and actually doing it.  I hear it all day long from everyone. Shit, I even do it my self sometimes. But I’m realizing that saying you are going to do something is the same as procrastination. And this journey I’m on is all about being honest, brutally honest, with myself. That’s the only way to find the personal growth I’m seeking. And if I’m being brutally honest, too much fucking procrastination is what got me to where I am today.

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An example is like me saying “I’m training for a half marathon”. Hell, that could mean anything. That could mean that I’m training to do a half marathon in 2022. But, when I say “I’m training for a half marathon and I signed up for the one in Philadelphia on 9/19/2020” there is something far more finite about that. And it forces my brain to operate differently. Now that means that I am focused on having a good training plan, stretching, food plan etc... But it also holds me accountable because I made a commitment. I made a commitment with my wallet. I made a commitment to myself with a deadline. I made a commitment to my family because of the time I will be sacrificing to prepare for this race.

This is something that I have learned about myself. I need to be thrown into the fire. I operate better that way.  When I look in the mirror I need to be able to say to myself, you are doing this shit on this specific date. Because I know myself, I will put the work in. But there needs to be that thing waiting there for me to work towards. 

So, sometimes the world works in mysterious ways. I’m on this serious journey towards personal growth, betterment and just trying to being mentally tougher. And on my long drives to and from stores across the three states that I now cover for work I have been listening to audio books. Last week I start listening to this book by David Goggins, Can’t Hurt Me. And I don’t think I could have found a book that is more perfect for me to listen to than this one at this point in my life. I will start by saying that this dude is one hard mother fucker. But, the things he talks about in his book to help himself experience growth and break through barriers has opened my mind.

Now I’m not going to go into a full book review, but there are a couple things that he talked about in the book that I’m implementing in my personal life. One specifically, called the accountability mirror. This means getting in front of the mirror everyday and being brutally honest with yourself. Now, this sounds easy, but it’s not. We live in this world where everything is sugar coated for us. We’re not fat, we just need to lose a little weight. The reason we didn’t get that promotion is because they favored the other person vying for the job, not because we didn’t put the necessary work in to get it. Do you see what I’m saying? People are uncomfortable having honest conversations. And people don’t want to hear honest feedback.

My goal in every aspect of my life is to be comfortable being uncomfortable. Push myself past physical and mental boundaries that my internal governor has set for me. I challenge you all to do the same.

Till next time, Stay healthy, find your happy and seek to inspire.


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